The Demons That Find Us

I am beginning the year of 2021 awaiting a Bipolar Depression diagnosis from my psychiatrist. I have seen this coming for a matter of months, perhaps. Peripherally, watching myself become more erratic, irritable, and generally just unable to calm my mood changes. It became really evident to me as I sat with my therapist one … Continue reading The Demons That Find Us

I Don’t Belong Here (Or Do I?)

Impostor Syndrome (also known as impostor phenomenon, impostorism, fraud syndrome or the impostor experience) is a psychological pattern in which an individual doubts their accomplishments or talents and has a persistent internalized fear of being exposed as a "fraud".Wikipedia, The Free Encyclopedia This week I've been mulling over the concept of being an impostor, whether in the work place or in … Continue reading I Don’t Belong Here (Or Do I?)

The Secret Sisterhood of Not Being Enough

As far back as I can remember I've always felt small when it has come to other women. This wasn't rooted in my own insecurity as much as it was passed down to me. My mother is a light skinned woman who grew up in New York in the 80s and 90s. She was the … Continue reading The Secret Sisterhood of Not Being Enough

Dear Friends, Forget Me Not

As the pandemic rages on around us, I am finding myself retreating inward. I am reflecting on the times and recognizing that though this time at home has been good for us in many ways, it has also been destructive in more ways than I'd care to admit. To keep my wits about me, I've … Continue reading Dear Friends, Forget Me Not

The Myth of “Coming As You Are”

You've heard the age old adages that churches spew left and right, "Come as you are!" or my personal favorite, "All are welcome here!" But we also know the reality of this is far from the words they use. As a Black woman, I was never welcomed as I was. I was always seen and … Continue reading The Myth of “Coming As You Are”

If You Give A Church A Cookie…

This Sunday, you'll be gathering together again—some of us physically and many of us, virtually. You'll be preparing your heart to hear a message and hoping after the week you've had that it will be timely. But as you sit in your pew (or on your couch), you may begin to see that the Pastor … Continue reading If You Give A Church A Cookie…

Here’s Your Permission To Forgo Mother’s Day

It's Okay To Not Be Okay Mother's Day came rather quickly this year. (Considering how long March was!) Every year I manage to avoid it right up until the last few weeks...until the ads are on constant replay and the emails won't stop asking you to think of mom and purchase the "perfect" gift. Every … Continue reading Here’s Your Permission To Forgo Mother’s Day

A Grief Undeniable

Y'all. It's been quite a long time since I could say that I was genuinely happy about my lot in life. Is everything perfect? Absolutely not. But I came into 2020 on a new frequency. I decided that this was my decade (or my year, if you're that kind of person). I'm not settling for … Continue reading A Grief Undeniable

Soul Care Series: The Ones Who Love Us

To the ones who've held us while we've broken down into rivers of tears. To the ones who've come over to clean/cook/complete a daunting project in our time of need. To the ones who have brought their presence when nothing else is needed. And to the ones who have held our hand in crisis and … Continue reading Soul Care Series: The Ones Who Love Us

Soul Care Series: The New Normal

I Don't Belong Here How old were you when you first realized you weren't like anybody else? For me, it was definitely middle school. I never felt like I fit in at all. I had friends, sure. But I always felt like an impostor in my friend groups. Like I was only around until they could find … Continue reading Soul Care Series: The New Normal